Top Tips for Writing your Vows
Writing your vows to each other is the one thing in a wedding preparation that gives the Bride and Groom the most nerves. It is the point in the wedding, where in front of those that are important to you, that you publicly share your love and open your heart with words.
The thing is, not everyone is a wordsmith, and often couples decide to not include hand written vows, for the fear of not getting them right.
The great thing about weddings, is that there is really only a very small part of the overall wording that needs to be said word for word, and your celebrant has that covered. Everything else, should suit your style, personality and reflect your level of comfort.
Here’s my top tips for writing your vows.
1. Imagine you are living overseas from each other
What would you say to each other if you lived on the other side of the world, and were writing a letter to each other? What are the things about each other that you would miss and that you would share?
2. Keep to three things
What are the 3 things that you want to promise to your partner that you will commit to, and that will sustain your love for each other and strengthen your relationship. Think of it as a life or relationship goal.
3. It’s OK to read them
I’ve had couples say a few lines to each other, and other read a letter out aloud. It’s your vows, and how you approach them is completely your choice. Your celebrant can hold onto the vows and give them to you when it’s time in the ceremony. Once you’ve written them, say them out aloud to hear how they sound when spoken and make any changes. Don’t make them too long, one to two minutes is ideal.
4. Say I love you
And don’t forget to include I love you. These three words can be a good way to start or finish your vows.
And if you feel shy about sharing your feelings with your guests, let your celebrant know. You don’t have to say personal vows to each other – after all, you are marrying the person you love and want to stand by for the rest of your life, and that says everything.
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